If we are to think about our own lives, we have probably learned by doing. We may not always realize that what we are learning here is how to make mistakes but learn from them. This lesson applies equally to children and adults. Children will often repeat mistakes but if they can identify the mistake and find out why it happened then they can avoid making similar errors in future.
We all make mistakes. Some people seem to do this much more than others. If they are really good at learning from their mistakes then they can overcome these problems and become better at things in life. If you want to teach your children to overcome their mistakes, you need to provide them with examples of what has happened before. If you did something wrong once, explain to your child that this was a mistake and you should not have done it. Remember that some mistakes are just normal mistakes, like forgetting where you put something, but other mistakes are caused by being careless. A few examples might include:
- You were playing outside with friends and you went into someone else’s garden without asking permission first.
- You got caught playing with matches while you were alone in the house.
- When you were painting, you accidentally painted over someone else’s work.
- Your teacher told you off for talking in class again.Create a healthy environment.
Children are not just little adults who need to be taught how to behave appropriately. They have emotional needs that require nurturing and understanding. If we feel bad about our parenting skills and do everything possible to hide them from our kids, they will never know what a real parent feels like. When we can openly discuss our weaknesses and failures with our children, we give them a sense of self-worth and empower them to become better parents themselves.
Don’t try to control your child’s behavior
As soon as we start trying to force our children to follow rules and expectations, we lose the ability to teach and inspire them. We end up being more concerned with making sure they don’t get into trouble than helping them develop their strengths. Children that have high levels of self esteem are always happy to comply with the rules set forth for us. They respect our wishes and know that we love them regardless of their choices.
Set clear goals for your child
Just because a child has been raised to eat certain foods or wear clothing doesn’t mean that she/he should continue doing those things forever. In fact, the opposite is true. As children mature, they begin to identify themselves differently and become increasingly interested in different activities. Kids want to pursue things that make them happy and fulfilled, but if we expect them to stay in that phase of life for too long, they may never find something else to enjoy.
Give them choices
Let them know that if something doesn’t work out they get to choose what they do next. If a child makes a mistake, let them know it’s okay to make mistakes. This way, they’ll understand that they can always try again.
When we’re angry or frustrated about our kids’ actions/behavior, it only serves to teach them how to manipulate us. Take deep breaths and stay calm. Remind yourself that you are not perfect either. You will never change your kids, but you can help them grow into good people who lead healthy lives.
This may seem like a cliché statement, but it really comes down to this: have faith in yourself and trust in God/the Universe. We are the creators of everything. Everything exists within a higher power; therefore, we cannot control each other, but we can control ourselves.
We are all human. We make mistakes. When we recognize our own mistakes and those of others – we become better people. As parents, we should always keep this principle in mind when it comes to correcting our children’s wrongdoings.
Don’t let them get away with it
The moment we allow our children to get away with something they have done wrong, we give them the idea that it can happen again and again. This way, they’ll think that what they did was okay, and they won’t feel bad about making mistakes.
Give them consequences
When you correct your child, don’t just do it lightly. You need to show him or her the right thing to do instead of simply scolding them.
- Be aware that they are going through a difficult time and your love and guidance can make them feel secure and safe. If they do not have a trusted adult to turn to, they may seek attention from others who do not know how to handle their emotions. This could lead to further abuse.
- Offer them a hug and tell them you love them.
- Tell them what you would like for them if this was happening to you.
- Don’t talk negatively about things that happen at school. You may want to take advantage of your child’s situation and ask him/her to share some lessons learned. He/she might enjoy talking about some positive aspects of his/her experience.
- Stay calm and reassuring! Do not get caught up in negative thoughts. Keep yourself focused on the good things that happen and don’t worry too much about possible bad outcomes.
- Encourage them to find out what else is happening around them. Talk to teachers, other parents, friends and family members about what happens in school.
Why is it Important to Learn from Mistakes ?
Children learn through mistakes.
If children are not allowed to make mistakes, they do not develop their intellect. They become fearful that any mistake may cause them to fail. A child who learns to deal successfully with mistakes makes better decisions in life. If we want our children to succeed we have to let them make mistakes and encourage them to try again.
Children learn best through play.
When children play with toys, they can explore their own bodies, the universe, and other objects around them. When children create with clay, wood, paint, music, dance, and sports, they learn how to work together. They learn about themselves, each other and the world around them. By making mistakes, children will figure out what they need to know and where they need to go to find answers. This helps them build self-confidence as well as learn to problem solve.
Children learn best through failure.
We teach our children to walk by letting them fall down. We laugh at silly jokes by telling them they don’t understand. However, if we never allow our children to experience failure, we will rob them of opportunities to learn how to accomplish difficult tasks. We will also deprive them of the chance to get help from others when they are struggling. Failing can teach us humility as well as teach us how to survive.